How to reconnect with a former coworker when you're job searching
By Adedayo Adeniyi · 3 min read · Updated Nov 9, 2026
Writing to someone you haven't spoken to in years can feel strange, especially when you're looking for work. It helps to remember that most people like hearing from someone they enjoyed working with.
The trick is to lead with what you share, then mention your search lightly.
Keep the first message small
- Mention something real you have in common: a project, a team, a funny day.
- Ask about them before you mention yourself.
- Say you're looking in one sentence, without asking for anything big.
Messages you can copy
Hi [Name], I was thinking about the [project] days at [old company] and realized it's been way too long. How are things at [their company]? I'm exploring my next role in [field] and would love to catch up if you have 15 minutes sometime.
Hi [Name], congrats on [new role or news]! That's great to see. I'm in the middle of a job search myself, looking at [kind of role]. Would love to hear how you made the move if you're up for a quick call.
If they write back
Keep the call or chat about them and what they're seeing. Near the end, say what you're looking for and ask if anyone comes to mind. Then thank them the same day.